Ooooo Look, A Baby!!!
Every day I am amazed at the things people say to you when you have a baby.
First off, and I didn’t know this before, when you have a baby, it seems to give everyone license to speak to you.
I am not saying it is a bad thing, it is actually a good thing. It just came as a bit of a shock in the beginning.
I am a people person. I am a friendly guy and I always make eye contact, say “Hello” or “Howdy.” I tend to open the door for ladies (and gentlemen). If you are wearing a name tag, I will typically address you by name. So, I don’t mind all of the attention.
Lynn jokingly accuses me of using DJ as a chick magnet. I think he likes the attention, too.
Everyone Wants to Talk to You
Women, men, children, young, old, fat, skinny, tall, short, white, black, Latino, Asian, etc., all take a good look. Some even offer their assessment of Danny Boy.
Fortunately, 99% of the time they typically say something nice, things like: “Oh, isn’t he is handsome?” or “What a beautiful baby!” or “He seems like a happy baby!” to “Isn’t he just precious?” All of which, are awesome.
Many have said that they see Lynn or me in him, which is nice, because they have just said that he is handsome, beautiful or precious.
A friend recently described Danny Boy as a perfect mix between Lynn and me. That’s a total winner!
When people ask DJ’s age, they will sometimes say, “He is small for his age!” Others will say, “He is so big!” We think he is just right!
I have been wondering, though, does anyone ever look at a baby and say, “That is one ugly baby!” Gosh, I hope not!
I think that perhaps most people are just nice and try to say nice things to the parents. I know that I have in the past.
Daniel Causes a Scene
The pictures were taken at the Cabazon Outlet Mall in Southern California.
Lynn was in the Coach store seeing what kind of damage she could do and I was trying to find a place to sit outside.
As I was looking for a bench to rest on, I noticed that every single bench was occupied by a smoker; so I decided to join Lynn in the store.
As I entered the Coach store, I was stopped by a young lady who just had to spend a minute loving on Daniel. “What’s his name? How old is he? Oh, he is so cute, I just want to kiss him!”
After a moment, she wished us well and resumed her shopping and I walked another five feet or so when two employees walked up and just were going crazy over DJ.
Every five feet or so another employee or two just had to see and play with the baby. I never noticed how many employees worked in this Coach outlet until Daniel met nearly all of them all in just about five minutes.
Since none of her employees were working at this point, I was waiting for the manager to kick me out of the store. Then she walked over and started making faces and baby talk to Danny Boy, too.
I was beginning to think we had entered a Twilight Zone episode where they don’t see children or maybe this is that village from Chitty-Chitty-Bang-Bang?
Then something really unusual happened.
Oh, Thank God, He’s a Boy
Just about the time I finally tracked Lynn down, a little old lady of Asian descent walked up and said, “You have a beautiful baby, is it a boy or a girl?”
I replied that he was a baby boy and she said, “Thank God he’s a boy, Chinese people don’t like or want little girls!”
While she was asking me his name, when he was born, etc., my mind wandered. I just couldn’t get past her statement and the thought that this poor woman had lived her entire life with the belief that, at the very least, she was unwanted.
You can read more about what is going on in China, here.
I thought, how lucky is DJ that he doesn’t have to deal with an entire society letting him know that he is unwanted? Not to mention his family.
He will always know that he is wanted. That he is a very special gift in all of our lives.
He is lucky to have two dedicated loving parents and three successful big brothers as incredible role models.
DJ is lucky indeed.
The Things People Say
Although it is nice to hear all of the compliments, which DJ receives on a regular basis, we will take great care with the things we say to him.
We will read to him every day.
Will will inspire him with words offered by those who have accomplished great things in their lives.
For the rest of the people in our world, my hope is that we will all choose our words more carefully.
Let’s inspire and not to belittle, let’s encourage and not deflate and let’s teach and not break down!
One guiding principle, which I try to live by, is that it takes the same effort to make someone feel special, as it does to tear them down or hurt them. Sometimes it is even easier.